I’ve spoken about mindfulness to numerous psychiatrists, those that I’ve worked with and experts from various out-postings of the Western world. Completely unprompted, they all converge on one point: We should pay more attention to what the Eastern philosophy already knows about the body and mind. As Western doctors, we are trained in the evidence-based […]
Stress is recognized by many as the number one proxy killer disease today.¹ If we do not keep our lives in perspective, we will create unnecessary stress by confusing the primary focus of the three main levels of the mind: the unconscious, the subconscious and the conscious.
THE UNCONSCIOUS is the lowest level of the mind. It is essentially the automatic level. It manages the direction and processing of the basic functions of the human body like: respiration, coronary functioning, digestion, temperature, immune system, reflexes, and early warning systems like the animal instincts of fight-flight-freeze-panic. Its primary focus is keeping us safe, assuring that our basic needs (water, food, air) are being met, and allowing us to be present. It is the least intelligent area of the mind.
THE SUBCONSCIOUS mind is the middle (subsurface layer) where our social instincts are directed and processed. The social instincts interact with the unconscious before entering consciousness – if they ever get there. This is where we keep track of all lessons learned from our life experiences and genetic predispositions. Some say that every second of our life is recorded through this level of our mind. This area has more intelligence than the unconscious mind, but is still not extremely intelligent. This level takes most of its intellectual reasoning from the conscious level.
THE CONSCIOUS mind resides above the surface and is arguably the most intelligent region. It is the analytical and intellectual part of the mind. It carries out much of its function based on its interactions with the subconscious and the unconscious while processing.
Each of these levels has a primary purpose and functions autonomously while still interacting with the others. In other words each level of the mind does a small part of the function of the others for a very short period of time intermittently. This leads us to the main point of this article.
By working from the inside out, you can help each level of the mind stay focused and perform its primary function better. When we allow outside influences to affect all levels of the mind, their primary focus becomes confused with the directives of the others. This compromises the function at every level and can lead to chaos causing stress. To prevent this from happening we simply need to adopt a practice of consistently differentiating needs, wants, and likes. For example, when we worry about getting a new car so we can look as good as our neighbours and we do not spend some time reinforcing that we are safe and secure no matter what, our unconscious mind believes that if we do not get the new car, we will die – as I may be doing when I finish writing this article. This new and displaced worry will affect function at a continually growing rate until we get the new car or reconcile this idea. Accordingly, asking the question “Why do I care?” can really help reduce anxiety at all levels of your consciousness.
“People are learning how to live stress free lives through the Neural Empowerment programs at Pathwaves. Pathwaves seeks to guide you to a state of individual balance and purposeful awareness,” explains Geoff Cole, Clinical Director of Pathwaves. Pathwaves believes the answer is their transformative methodology called Neural Empowerment. “Neural Empowerment is a process that aims to provide you with the tools to take control and live happier and more fulfilling lives free of stress regardless of your circumstances,” Cole shares.
(2016, Novebember) Natural Awakenings
Since I started looking into different sorts of techniques to improve myself I realised that there were so many to choose from and wow, where the hell do I start?
Who doesn’t want to feel full of energy and to be happy, I sure as hell do. I don’t want to spend time worrying about things that will more than likely never happen. I, after all am fully responsible for my own thoughts and no one else. So I hereby state that my thoughts will be mainly happy positive and full of joy…oh but what if I just cant sustain it…what if I slip up..shit its just too damn hard..this world..these people…Oh this mind of mine….
Where to start? So many techniques to try out and it can be overwhelming but just make the decision and let the universe do the rest. Is it that simple? Seriously…
I’m gonna start by naming some of the amazing brain training techniques that I have encountered on my journey to being a happier human being.
Top one of course is Meditation – and there is so many different ones to choose from and one size doesn’t fit all. I find Mindfulness is more of a day to day training that can be used during our busy life’s. Sitting at traffic lights or doing the dishes and being totally mindful of the present moment.
I also love a guided meditation and sometimes just some nice music and a bit of quiet time.
John Kabat Zinn and Eckhart Tolle are two of my top re read books at my bedside and I highly recommend them.
Next is Dr Joe Dispenza – Joe Dispenza, D.C., first caught the public’s eye as one of the scientists featured in the award-winning film What the BLEEP Do We Know!? Since that movie’s release in 2004, his work has expanded, deepened, and spiraled in several key directions—all of which reflect his passion for exploring how people can use the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience and quantum physics to not only heal illness but also to enjoy a more fulfilled and happy life. Dr. Joe is driven by the conviction that each one of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities.
So I started listening to all his YouTube videos, as you do when you want to learn anything new. Which then lead me to buying his book ” Breaking the habit of being yourself” So I was doing his meditations for a good month or two. I love his books but I would say that his meditations are just a little too long for me. I did them for a good few months and can see how they would work but I have found other ones that I like more now so I will continue to dip in and out of his work.
But before I found out about him I bought Dr Bruce Liptons book “The Biology of Belief” This guy tells you all about how your beliefs can alter your cells. I must admit at the time of reading this book I wasn’t really terribly conscious so a lot of it went over my head, so I dipped back into it recently and I can say I get it a lot more now. I do love to listen to him on youtube. He is promoting PSYCH-K technique,
Civilization, as we know it, is in the process of making a monumental shift in human consciousness of which we are all playing a part, consciously and subconsciously. Every aspect of our lives, both personal and professional, is being profoundly affected. Using PSYCH-K®, you can help to positively direct this change. PSYCH-K allows you to quickly and painlessly change subconscious beliefs that are limiting the full expression of your potential in life, as a spiritual being having a human experience. This includes your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
I love this quote — “When you rewrite the software of your mind, you change the printout of your life… and the world!”
Next Technique is The Havening Technique – This one is amazing and a bit like..WTF…how does that sh*t work…
The Havening techniques described herein are based in evolutionary biology and offer you the opportunity to live a healthier, hopefully happier and more productive life. To Western eyes, to watch pain instantly disappear, long standing psychological problems resolve and disturbing memories fade into the irretrievable past is nothing short of astonishing.
We call this method Havening. Havening, the transitive verb of the word haven, means to put into a safe place. While some forms of this approach have been around for decades, many mental health professionals remain skeptical given that it involves no medication, talking or prolonged exposure
So the most famous Hypnotist ever – Paul McKenna – Is promoting this one. And I have done a few of his books with success so why not give it a go. You can check out this technique for free on YouTube and its very easy and it does work so give it a go.
TFT, EFT, HYPNOSIS, MEDITATION PSYCH – K AND SO MANY MORE TECHNIQUES OUT THERE TO IMPROVE US AS HUMAN BEINGS FROM THE INSIDE OUT. LET US ALL WORK ON OURSELVES TO MAKE US HAPPIER, CALMER MORE JOYFUL COMPASSIONATE HUMAN BEINGS..IF NOT FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY..JUST SPREAD THAT JOY ALL AROUND THE PLACE. WHATEVER WE PUT OUT THERE HAS GOTTA COME BACK..IT IS THE LAW AFTER ALL.
Happiness is a choice, and a skill
The Precepts are the bridge between how you experience your life and how you want to experience it.
Happiness, steady happiness, isn’t a luxury, or a carrot on a stick. It is both a choice, and the skill to be able to make that choice.
Abiding happiness doesn’t just happen. It doesn’t magically appear. Happiness isn’t in your future unless you learn how to be happy now.
Your body constantly responds to your emotional state. Stress and depression damage your health and influence your choices in ways you might not recognize, making it harder and harder to choose to be happy.
Happiness is a necessity
Happiness is essential to health and well-being, and it is your true nature.
You are happiest when you are yourself. When you are happy, you make good choices that help you stay that way. And happiness enables you to function at your highest capacity, to bring your best self, and greatest creativity, to each moment of every day.
Happiness is contagious. Creating your happiness is a primary responsibility and social obligation.
When you are happy, you inspire the people around you to be happy — both the people you love and even those other people who would be so much easier to be around if you were happier and knew how to stay happier!
Your happiness will not improve until you make it a priority. Even if you were magically infused with happiness, you still need to know how to maintain it.
Now is the time to take control of your happiness.
Do not anger,
Do not worry.
Be kind to others.
Have you ever listened to a song and all of a sudden felt intense emotions of either sadness or empowerment. Like listening to a pink song – “So what I’m still a Rock Star” in my car and blaring out the lyrics and totally imagining that you just don’t give a shit and your unstoppable….then the song goes off and your listening to Adele and you feel like you could just cry your eyes out…
Well when your down or anxious or just not feeling the best, watch what your listening to and watching and make sure its empowering and uplifting.
My favourite people to listen to when I need extra courage is the one and only Mr Tony robbins. He is just the most amazing motivational guru, how one person just knows so much about people is just beyond me..but I’m glad he does.
I also love Will Smith, Jim Carey and Oprah Winfrey for getting you totally revved up and ready to take on the world.
The only thing with listening to these motivational movies and speeches is that the momentum of good feelings doesn’t last long, but if you keep on listening and really feel the emotion you can eventually train your brain into being more empowered.
As Oprah Winfrey says.”you are the master of ur emotions” I’m sure someone said it before her but as I was watching her empowering speech it is something that just totally stuck with me.
So stop watching the news and getting freaked out over the state of the world and start watching mind movies to enhance ur compassion ur positivity and spread ur good mood to the rest of ur family and beyond.
For me I began meditating when my anxiety started showing its ugly face in my life again. Pharmaceutical drugs are not for me (not knocking them as they help some) just not for myself, so I decided to face this f*cking awful feeling inside me and shine a light on it. In my previous chapters of my life I used recreational drugs and alcohol and blanked out any crappy feelings I had. Not now, I have children and that just isn’t an option. I want to be the best mum I can be and I cant do that if I let anxiety get the better of me. So in brief that Is why I discovered meditation.
Was it easy?? Did it miraculously cure my anxiety? Hell no.. It made it worse…by shining the light on to the problem, becoming aware of it, made me have to face it and that’s when I started really looking into the mind and how it works. Meditation is part of my life and I use it daily, I feel more calm in my mind. Do I still feel anxiety..YES..Can I deal with it, yes. I now have tools I can use and I understand how the mind works so I can use this to my advantage.
So please do not give up on meditation as it will get easier and free’s up so much headspace which in turn gives you more energy and you will find you can handle situations in your life so much better.
So I started a course with Mindvalley and one of the main points I have found in the Bending Reality course was the forgiveness meditations. They are emotional but once you do them for a short while I noticed that people just didn’t upset me anymore. I think when you realise that a negative emotion or reaction has such an impact on your own wellbeing you make sure that you keep your emotions in check. It is not to say that you wont and don’t feel things, of course you do. But you do not stay in that emotion and you learn to not react so quickly.
Vishen from Mindvalley is an amazing teacher and his 6 phase meditation can be found on YouTube for free. You can also practice his forgiveness meditation. This may take as little as 5 minutes to go through a forgiveness meditation.
Vishen visited the 40 years of zen programme. Now its not something within my price range but it is a very good article to read as it proves that the forgiveness meditation changes your brain waves to promote calmer better feelings.
The Secret Is Forgiveness
Forgiveness. by Vishen
We had to forgive every single person in our lives who had wronged us. Even if it was in the slightest way imaginable.
I had to forgive high school teachers. Business partners. Family members. Everyone I could think of that I believed wronged me, big or small.
And every time I did a round of forgiveness, my alpha waves would spike. The people behind the program discovered that the single biggest factor suppressing alpha waves are holding on to grudges and anger. So it was critical for us to be able to release every last bit of it out of our system.
The method that they taught us was unbelievably effective.
Step 1: Set The Scene
Firstly, with your eyes closed and for about two minutes or so, bring back all the anger, frustration and pain you felt when someone in your life wronged you. Feel yourself in that very moment when it happened and picture the same environment you were in when you interacted with them. (To give you an example, in one of my sessions I imagined my bullying school headmaster in the same basketball court where he had made me stand for hours in the hot sun as punishment.)
Step 2: Feel The Anger And Pain
As you see the person who “wronged” you in front of you, get emotional. Relive the anger and pain. Feel it burn. But don’t do this for more than a few minutes.
Once you bring up these emotions that these people created in you, move on to the next step…
Step 3: Forgive Into Love
See that same person in front of you, but instead, feel compassion for them. Ask yourself what did I learn from this? How did this situation make my life better?
As I was doing this, I remembered a quote from one of my favorite authors, Neale Donald Walsch, “[God] sent you nothing but angels.” Everyone who has ever entered our lives, even those who have hurt us, are nothing more than someone to teach us an important lesson.
So think about what lessons you could derive from this situation as painful as it might be. How did these lessons make you better? Or help you grow?
Next, think about who this person is. What pain or anguish could they have have gone through in their life that made them do what they did.
One of my friends has a quote that I love, “Hurt people hurt people.” It implies that those who hurt others, are doing it because at some level they were hurt too.
So think about how they may have been hurt in their own childhood or in their recent years.
I saw the man who had stolen from me and I tried to imagine him as a little boy in his childhood. Perhaps he came from poverty. Perhaps he had an abusive father. Perhaps his life was a constant struggle and the only means of survival as a child was to steal.
Now there’s something important to distinguish here. “Forgiveness To Love” does not mean to simply let go (in my case, to drop the charges against him with the police). You still need to protect yourself and take action if need be. Criminal acts, especially, need to be reported to authorities.
But what it does mean is that the pain of what happened no longer eats at you.
Another important thing I learned from this experience was that you don’t have to ask the other person to forgive you. You just have to forgive them. And that’s completely within your control. Dave Asprey says that when you start doing this, you become “unf*ckwithable”.
So I can’t recommend this powerful meditation program enough. Quantified Self is an amazing movement and it’s also deeply shifted my view of meditation. If I recommend meditation now, I would say that finding a method that measures what you’re experiencing as you meditate is the best way to go. Which is why I am now working with Dave Asprey and I’m determined to see how we can take this type of technology more accessible to the wider public.
~ Vishen Lakhiani
Use Thought Power to Change Your Life:
It is your subconscious mind that is the storehouse of your deep-seated beliefs and programmes. To change your circumstances and attract to yourself that which you choose, you must learn to programme and re-programme your subconscious mind. The most effective and practical way to do so, is to learn the simple process of creative visualization. It is the technique underlying reality creation, making use of thought power to consciously imagine, create and attract that which you choose. Your imagination is the engine of your thoughts. It converts your thought power into mental images, which are in turn manifested in the physical realm.
Become Aware of Your Thoughts But Not Obsessed:
It is important that you learn to be aware of your habitual thoughts and to appropriately adjust them so as to maintain an overall positive mental attitude. However, be careful not to become obsessed with every thought that enters your mind as this would be equally counter-productive, if not more so, than not being aware of them at all. Remember that to obsess over your negative, unwanted thoughts, is to give them power and as the saying goes, what you resist persists. So instead of resisting any of your negative thoughts, simply learn to effortlessly cancel them by replacing them as they arise.
Instantly Replace Unwanted Thoughts:
To instantly neutralize the power of a negative thought, calmly and deliberately replace it with its opposite, positive equivalent. For instance, if you think to yourself “I’m not good enough, I will never succeed”, mentally replace that thought with “I am good enough and success comes to me easily”. You can also use the “cancel, cancel” technique made famous by the Silva Method. Each time you catch yourself thinking an unwanted thought, mentally tell yourself and the Universe “cancel, cancel” and immediately follow it up with a positive statement.
Tame Your Dominant Thoughts and Your Random Thoughts Will Follow Suit:
It is estimated that the average person has between 12,000 and 70,000 thoughts a day. This is evidence enough to suggest that your goal should not be to control every thought. It is your dominant thoughts and beliefs that you must learn to bring under your conscious control as they are what largely determine your mental attitude. As you do, you will find your random thoughts themselves becoming more positive and more deliberate.