When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness. ~Eckhart Tolle
We should pay more attention to what the Eastern philosophy already knows about the body and mind.
“Ultimately I see mindfulness as a love affair – with life, with reality and imagination, with the beauty of your own being, with your heart and body and mind, and with the world.” – Jon Kabat Zinn What an inspiring way to describe mindfulness. Life is beautiful. In the beginning it takes practice, and yes, […]
Absolutely loving this book and its easy to understand and put into practice. I cant recommend this book enough to anyone who is like me and into improving their life.
“The Chimp is an emotional machine that thinks independently from us. It is not good or bad, it is just a Chimp.”
Prof Steve Peters’ The Chimp Paradox took the self-help world by storm in 2012 and his methods and teachings are used throughout the business and sport psychology worlds. The book depicts a way of understanding the brain and the the different functions of its component parts, and teaches you how to manage them.
His primary idea is
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The sacral chakra or Swadhisthana is the second chakra.
It deals with feelings of sexuality that allow expression of emotions when the chakra is open without being overly emotional or overactive. Emotions are kept in balance and you become more passionate and lively. When the sacral chakra is balanced, you will have no issues dealing with sexuality.
The sacral chakra is situated in the lower abdomen about 1-2 inches below the navel. It controls your sexual organs and reproductive system including ovaries or testes. It also controls the bladder and the kidneys.
Functions of the Sacral Chakra
While this chakra is responsible for the proper functioning of the reproductive system, its organs and hormones, the energy of the sacral chakra is also responsible for the administration of the lymphatic and circulatory system and the urinary tract. As the sacral chakra mainly deals with purification, the chakra plays a role in removing toxins out of the body. Some say that the sacral chakra is represented by the spleen in men and uterus in women.
An imbalance in the sacral chakra can cause many physical issues such as urinary problems, kidney stones, lower back pain, gynecological problem and prostate problems. It is therefore important to keep this chakra in balance to maintain a healthy physical health and stay away from such problems.
The sacral chakra being the ‘seat of emotions’ it’s mainly responsible for producing joy, ambition, love for yourself, healthy relationships and creativity. When this chakra is in balance, you are more comfortable with expressing your emotions and you do not get suppressed by other people’s power. However, if this chakra is blocked or dysfunctional then you will become shy, helpless, and weak.
Since the sacral chakra governs the reproductive system, it also deals with the stimulation of the production of various sexual hormones or hormones that develop pleasure, joy and other emotions.
Basically, your chakra is in balance when you sexual energy and sex drive, and are comfortable with having a sexual relationship with someone and you feel no negative emotions while having sex. You can express your power easily and sex is done for a fair exchange and it’s not weighted on one side only. You have a blocked sacral chakra when you do not have any sexual desires and try to avoid having sex as much as possible, hence reducing its importance in your life. You do not feel sexual sensations normally and these sexual sensations are often weak and disappointing.
Also, when this chakra is balanced, there is no neediness, no feeling clingy, and therefore no jealousy.
Healing the Sacral Chakra with Reiki
Reiki practitioners might have their own technique for balancing the sacral chakra, below is just one of the methods that many find effective.
- The Reiki practitioner will place their hands by the patient’s sacrum. Some practitioners unblock the chakra by rotating to the right for females and for males, they rotate to the left – but it’s better to do what feels right for you, or if you’re not certain, just send energy to the area, it will do the right thing :). This can be done on the front or the back of the person. This not only unblocks the area, but is also known to help with reproductive problems and prostate problems.
- Some practitioners will associate the blockage with mantras. The first is often the ‘vam’ sound. Others prefer aroma therapy to clear this chakra such as the usage of sandalwood or ylang ylang oil. Gemstones can be used as well to purify the chakra such as carnelian and moonstones.
- When the Reiki healing is finished, you will feel that the aura surrounding this chakra will glow orange in its pure state. Many people often tend to sleep for more than eight hours when the chakra is cleared in a fetal position. You may also envision moonlight and clear water after or sometimes even during the process of Reiki.
The chakra opens to universal energies and once it is unblocked you will feel the freedom of expressing your emotions without any discomfort or displeasure. By healing your chakra, you will not only heal your physical self which includes your reproductive system and other organs, you will also have cleared your emotional and sexual blockages.
This is the first of the chakras of matter. Balancing the root chakra creates the solid foundation for opening the chakras above. Imagine that you’re laying the foundation for a house in which you’re going to live for a long time. A solid foundation embedded in firm soil will provide the stability you need to create a home filled with joy for years to come.
Located at the base of the spine, the pelvic floor, and the first three vertebrae, the root chakra is responsible for your sense of safety and security on this earthly journey. The word Muladhara breaks down into two Sanskrit words: Mula meaning “root” and Adhara, which means “support” or “base.”
This is the first of the chakras of matter. Balancing the root chakra creates the solid foundation for opening the chakras above. Imagine that you’re laying the foundation for a house in which you’re going to live for a long time. A solid foundation embedded in firm soil will provide the stability you need to create a home filled with joy for years to come.
The root chakra is comprised of whatever grounds you to stability in your life. This includes your basic needs such as food, water, shelter, and safety, as well as your more emotional needs such as letting go of fear. When these needs are met, you feel grounded and safe, and you tend to worry less day to day.
Imbalances in the Root Chakra
If there is an imbalance in the root chakra you may experience anxiety disorders, fears, or nightmares. Physical imbalances may manifest as problems in the colon, with the bladder, with elimination, or with lower back, leg, or feet issues. In men, prostate problems may occur. Eating disorders may also be a sign of a root chakra imbalance.
How to Balance Muladhara
While meditation does connect you to a higher spiritual plane, it also serves to ground you. You may not always be able to trust that the world will give you what you need to survive, but connection to your higher self and trust in a power higher than yourself will give you what you need to feel safe.
It does not matter if you call that higher power Consciousness, Mother Nature, God, or Spirit. Connection to universal energy will bring you a sense of peace and stability. The animals in the forest have no idea if and when they will find food each day, yet somehow they trust in
This is an exercise to strengthen this connection to the ground.
Stand up straight and relaxed.
Put your feet shoulder width apart.
Slightly bend your knees.
Put your pelvis somewhat forward.
Keep your body balanced, so that your weight is evenly distributed over the soles of your feet.
Sink your weight downward.
Keep in this position for several minutes
Imagine in your mind that you have roots like a tree and they are going through your root chakra and deep down into the earth until they hit the centre of the earth and a bright white light then comes up through the roots and back into the base of your spine. Do this three times whilst breathing in slowly through the nose and out through the nose.
Another Technique to Unblock your Root Chakra
Relax and clear your mind. Once you are fully relaxed, take a moment to center yourself then visualize each of the chakras opening like a flower. When doing this exercise it is important not to force them to open. It is also alright if they do not open fully on your first try. If one does not open, try again tomorrow. One reason for this is because they have been dormant. Please remember if they have been blocked, to go slowly with this exercise. Once they are open, you might notice a tingling this is normal and it means you are receiving the energy your body needs. The whole exercise should take about five minutes.
The crystal you need for the root chakra is Ruby, Garnet, Tourmaline, smoky quartz, Bloodstone, Black onyx and Agate. Pick one.
Beginners Guide on How to Meditate
Creating a container for practice:
It helps to have a regular time and space for cultivating a meditation practice.
Setting a time – Morning is often preferred because the mind may be calmer than it is later in the day. However, the best time is the time that you can realistically commit to on a regular basis. Some people choose to do two or more short sits, perhaps one at the beginning and one at the end of the day.
Deciding in advance the duration of your sit will help support your practice. For many, the chosen time is between 15-45 minutes. If you sit each day, you may experience noticeable benefits (e.g., less reactivity, more calm) and be able to increase your sitting time.
Finding a space – If possible, dedicate a space exclusively to your daily sitting. Choose a relatively protected and quiet space where you can leave your cushion (or chair) so that it is always there to return to. You may want to create an altar with a candle, inspiring photos, statues, flowers, stones, shells and/or whatever arouses a sense of beauty, wonder and the sacred. These are not necessary, but are beneficial if they help create a mood and remind you of what you love.
Set your intention:
There is a Zen teaching that says “The most important thing is remembering the most important thing.” It is helpful to recall at the start of each sitting what matters to you, what draws you to meditate. Take a few moments to connect in a sincere way with your heart’s aspiration. You might sense this as a prayer that in some way dedicates your practice to your own spiritual freedom, and that of all beings.
Set your posture:
Alertness is one of the two essential ingredients in every meditation. Sit on a chair, cushion, or kneeling bench as upright, tall and balanced as possible. A sense of openness and receptivity is the second essential ingredient in every meditation, and it is supported by intentionally relaxing obvious and habitual areas of tension. Around an erect posture, let the rest of your skeleton and muscles hang freely. Let the hands rest comfortably on your knees or lap. Let the eyes close, or if you prefer, leave the eyes open, the gaze soft and receptive.
Please don’t skip the step of relaxing/letting go! You might take several full deep breaths, and with each exhale, consciously let go, relaxing the face, shoulders, hands, and stomach area. Or, you may want to begin with a body scan: start at the scalp and move your attention slowly downward, methodically relaxing and softening each part of the body. Consciously releasing body tension will help you open to whatever arises during your meditation.
The Basic Practice:
Presence has two interdependent qualities of recognizing, or noticing what is happening, and allowing whatever is experienced without any judgment, resistance or grasping. Presence is our
deepest nature, and the essence of meditation is to realize and inhabit this whole and lucid awareness.
We practice meditation by receiving all the domains of experience with a mindful, open attention. These domains include breath and sensations; feelings (pleasant, unpleasant and neutral); sense perceptions, thoughts and emotions; and awareness itself.
In the essential practice of meditation there is no attempt to manipulate or control experience. Natural Presence simply recognizes what is arising (thoughts, feelings, sounds, emotions) and allows life to unfold, just as it is. As long as there is a sense of a self making an effort and doing a practice, there is identification with a separate and limited self. The open receptivity of Natural Presence dissolves this sense of a self “doing” the meditation.
Knowing the difference between Natural Presence and “skillful means” or supports for practice:
Because our minds are often so busy and reactive, it is helpful to develop skillful means that quiet the mind and allow us to come home to the fullness of Natural Presence. These supports for practice help us to notice and relax thoughts and physical tension. They involve a wise effort that un-does our efforting!
You might consider yourself as a contemplative artist, with a palette of colors (supportive strategies) with which to work in creating the inner mood that is most conducive for the clarity and openness of presence. These colors can be applied with a light touch. Experiment and see what works best for you, and don’t confuse these methods (such as following the breath) with the radical and liberating presence that frees and awakens our spirit. Regardless of what skillful means you employ, create some time during each sitting when you let go of all “doings” and simply rest in Natural Presence. Discover what happens when there is no controlling or efforting at all, when you simply let life be just as it is. Discover who you are, when there is no managing of the meditation.
Skillful Means: Our supports for practice
Presence is supported by a calm and collected mind, a mindful awareness and an open heart. The following strategies cultivate these capacities:
Establish an embodied presence—senses awake!
You might take a few minutes at the beginning of the sitting (or anytime during the sitting or day) to intentionally awaken all the senses. Scan through the body with your attention, softening and becoming aware of sensations from the inside out. Listen to sounds and also include the scent and the feel of the space around you in and outside of the room. While the eyes may be closed, still include the experience of light and dark, and imagine and sense the space around you. Explore listening to and feeling the entire moment–to-moment experience, with your senses totally open.
Choose a home base—a primary anchor or subject of meditation.
It is helpful to select a home base (or several anchors) that allow you to quiet and collect the mind, and to deepen embodied presence. Useful anchors are:
• The breath as it enters and leaves the nostrils. • Other physical changes during breathing, e.g., the rise and fall of the chest. • Other physical sensations as they arise, e.g. the sensations in the hands, or through the whole body.
• Sounds as they are experienced within or around you. • Listening to and feeling one’s entire experience, (i.e., receiving sounds and sensations in awareness).
Remindfulness—”coming back” and “being here”
Mindfulness is the awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose and nonjudgmentally to the unfolding of moment to moment experience. We train in mindfulness by establishing an embodied presence and learning to see clearly and feel fully the changing flow of sensations, feelings (pleasantness and unpleasantness), emotions and sounds.
A metaphor offered by psychiatrist and author, Dan Siegel, is helpful. Imagine your awareness as a great wheel. At the hub of the wheel is mindful presence, and from this hub, an infinite number of spokes extend out to the rim. Your attention is conditioned to leave presence, move out along the spokes and affix itself to one part of the rim after another. Plans for dinner segue into a disturbing conversation, a self-judgment, a song of the radio, a backache, the feeling of fear. Or your attention gets lost in obsessive thinking circling endlessly around stories and feelings about what is wrong. If you are not connected to the hub, if your attention is trapped out on the rim, you are cut off from your wholeness and living in trance.
Training in mindfulness allows us to return to the hub and live our moments with full awareness. Through the practice of “coming back” we notice when we have drifted and become lost in thought, and we recall our attention back to a sensory based presence. This important capacity is developed through the following steps:
• Set your intention to awaken from thoughts—mental commentary, memories, plans, evaluations, stories—and rest in non-conceptual presence. • Gently bring attention to your primary anchor, letting it be in the foreground while still including in the background the whole domain of sensory experience. For instance you might be resting in the inflow and outflow of the breath as your home base, and also be mindful of the sounds in the room, a feeling of sleepiness, an itch, heat. • When you notice you have been lost in thought, pause and gently re-arrive in your anchor, mindful of the changing moment-to-moment experience of your senses.
It can be helpful to remember that getting distracted is totally natural- just as the body secretes enzymes, the mind generates thoughts! No need to make thoughts the enemy; just realize that you have a capacity to awaken from the trance of thinking. When you recognize that you have been lost in thought, take your time as you open out of the thought and relax back into the actual experience of being Here. You might listen to sounds, re-relax your shoulder, hands and belly, relax your heart. This will allow you to arrive again in mindful presence at the hub, senses wide open, letting your home base be in the foreground. Notice the difference between any thought and the vividness of this
As the mind settles, you will have more moments of “being here,”’ of resting in the hub and simply recognizing and allowing the changing flow of experience. Naturally the mind will still sometimes lose itself on the rim, and at these times, when you notice, you again gently return to the hub—“coming back,” and “being here” are fluid facets of practice.
The more you inhabit the alert stillness at the center of the wheel and include in mindfulness whatever is happening, the more the hub of presence becomes edgeless, warm and bright. In the moments when there is no controlling of experience—when there is effortless mindfulness— you enter the purity of presence. This is “Natural Presence.” The hub, spokes and rim are all floating in your luminous open awareness.
Practice metta to soften and open the heart.
Metta practice, also called lovingkindness meditation, cultivates both a loving heart and a collected, settled mind. The practice uses specific phrases to send loving and kind wishes to yourself, loved ones, neutral persons, difficult people and to all beings everywhere, without exception. You might choose three or four of the below, or create whatever phrases resonate for you:
May I be filled with loving kindness.
May I feel safe from harm.
May I accept myself just as I am.
May I be peaceful and at ease.
May I be happy.
Spend a few minutes or more offering the phrases to yourself, taking the time to imagine and directly feel the experience the phrases invoke. Then do the same as you offer it to the others mentioned above. You can bring in the metta practice at the beginning, end or during any part of the meditation. For some people, it can be beneficial to emphasize metta as a primary practice— especially when there has been trauma or great self-aversion. This skillful means is a beautiful way to awaken the heart.
Bringing attention to a primary subject or anchor can lead to a concentrated focus that naturally calms and collects the mind. This concentration can be deepened by intentionally aiming and sustaining a focused attention with your chosen anchor. When cultivating concentration, the anchor should be one that has a pleasant or at least neutral feeling tone.
Concentration supports mindfulness and requires a relaxed attention. There is often a subtle (or overt) sense of making an effort to sustain concentration, of striving to control the mind and make something happen. It is important to not become caught in a striving effort. It is easy to be seduced into trying to achieve something, such as staying with the breath for much of the sitting, and then evaluating what is happening as a “good” or “not good” meditation. Mistaking a focus on the breath for meditation is like fixating on the quality of your hiking boots, and not really being awake of the natural world you are inhabiting!
Concentration helps quiet the mind and without some quieting, mindfulness is difficult to sustain. It also can lead to states of rapture and deep peace. Yet without a mindful presence, concentration bears no fruit. The key to concentration is remembering your intention towards presence, and then focusing on your chosen subject for meditation with a soft, clear and relaxed attention.
RAIN—healing emotional suffering
The mindful presence that helps release emotional suffering is summarized by the acronym RAIN.
• R-Recognize – notice what is arising (fear, hurt, etc.)
• A-Allow – agree to “be with it,” to “let it be.”
• I-Investigate – in a non-analytic way, get to know how the body, heart and mind experiences these energies. You might inquire by asking yourself one or more of the following questions: “What is happening?” “Where am I feeling this in my body?” “What wants attention?” “What wants acceptance?” The “I” is also Intimacy: experiencing difficult sensations and emotions with a direct, gentle, kind attention; and offering compassion to the place of vulnerability.
• N-Non-identification, or not having your sense of Being defined by, possessed by or linked to any emotion. In other words, not taking it personally! The “N” is also Natural Presence, a homecoming to the loving awareness that is our essence.
Inquiry (questions like “What is happening?”) can bring attention in a direct way to the changing flow of experience and reveal the truth of impermanence and the empty (self-less) nature of sights, sounds, thoughts, emotions and feelings. Self- inquiry extends this process by turning awareness back on itself. Classical questions include: “Who am I?” “What am I?” “Who or what is aware?” “Who or what is listening to sound” “Who or what is looking out through these eyes?”
Self-Inquiry is best done when the mind is relatively quiet and senses awake. Ask a question and look back towards awareness, towards that which is aware. After asking, relax with an embodied presence, open, not in any way pursuing an answer with your intellect. By enrolling the natural interest, energy and receptive attention of inquiry, the very nature of awareness is revealed.
Part 2: Common Issues for Meditators
Getting lost in thought
At first, you may be surprised at how active and uncontrolled your mind is. Don’t worry – you are discovering the truth about the state of most minds! Accept and patiently “sit with” whatever comes up. There is no need to get rid of thoughts; this is not the purpose of meditation. Rather, we are learning to recognize when thinking is happening so we are not lost in a trance—believing thoughts to be reality, becoming identified with thoughts.
Because we are so often in a thinking trance, it is helpful to quiet down some. Just like a body of water stirred up by the winds, after being physically still for a while, your mind will gradually calm down. To support that quieting, at the beginning of a sitting it can be helpful to relax and practice Remindfulness—gently bringing your attention back again and again to your home base in the senses.
It takes practice to distinguish the trance of thinking – fantasy, planning, commentary, dreamy states – from the presence that directly receives the changing experience of this moment. Establishing an embodied awareness and letting your anchor be in the foreground is a good way to become familiar with the alive, vibrant mystery of Here-ness, of presence.
The Five Classic Challenges (called “hindrances” in Buddhist texts):
• Grasping: wanting more (or something different) from what’s present right now. • Aversion: fear, anger, any form of pushing away. • Restlessness: jumpy energy, agitation. • Sloth and torpor: sleepy, sinking states of mind and body. • Doubt: a mind-trap that says, “it’s no use, this will never work, maybe there’s an easier way”.
These are universal body-mind energies experienced by all humans. It is important to recognize that they are not a “problem.” The energies become “hindrances” because our conditioned habit is to ignore, resist, judge or otherwise try to control them. And yet when met with mindfulness and care, these same energies become a gateway to increased aliveness and spiritual awakening.
During sitting practice, if you encounter one of these challenging energies, it may be useful to name it silently to yourself, e.g., “grasping, grasping” or “fear, fear.” If it is strong, rather than pulling away, let your intention be to bring your full attention to what is arising. Feel what is happening as sensations in your body, neither getting lost in the experience nor pushing it away. As indicated through the RAIN acronym, investigate what is arising and meet the experience with an intimate, compassionate attention. When it dissipates, return to the primary anchor of your meditation, or rest in Natural Presence.
Sometimes the energy is too strong, and it is not wise or compassionate to try to stay present with it. This is particularly true if you have been traumatized and are experiencing deep fear or anger. If it feels like “too much,” shift the attention to something that brings a sense of balance, safety and/or love. You might open your eyes, remind yourself of where you are, listen to sounds, relax again through your body. You might bring to mind someone who loves and understands you, and sense their care surrounding you. You might reflect on the Buddha or the bodhisattva of compassion, Jesus, Great Spirit, your grandmother, your dog or a favorite tree. You might offer phrases of lovingkindness to places of vulnerability. Meditate on any expression of loving presence that helps you feel less separate or afraid.
If you encounter these kinds of difficult emotional energies regularly you might ask a teacher or therapist familiar with meditation to accompany you as you learn to navigate what feels most intense.
In addition to mental busyness and emotional challenges, it is inevitable that we all experience a certain amount of unpleasant physical sensations. If you are not used to the posture, there may be some discomfort in simply sitting still. In addition, as your attention deepens, you might become aware of tensions in the body that were ignored because of being preoccupied by thought. Or, you might be injured or sick, and become more directly aware of the natural unpleasant sensations accompanying that condition.
Meditating with physical discomfort is the same as the process of presence with emotional difficulty. Let your intention be to meet the unpleasantness with a gentle attention, noticing how it is experienced in the body and how it changes. Allow the unpleasantness to float in awareness, to be surrounded by soft presence. To establish that openness you might include in your attention sounds, and/or other parts of the body that are free from pain. Breathe with the experience, offering a spacious and kind attention. Be aware of not only the physical sensations, but how you are relating to them. Is there resistance? Fear? If so, let these energies be included with a forgiving and mindful attention.
If the physical unpleasantness is intense and wearing you out, direct your attention for a while to something else. It is fine to mindfully shift your posture, or to use a skillful means like phrases of lovingkindness or listening to sounds as a way to discover some space and resilience. You don’t need to “tough it out.” That is just another ego posture that solidifies the sense of separate self. In a similar vein, you don’t have to “give up.” Instead, discover what allows you to find a sense of balance and spaciousness, and when you are able, again allow the immediate sensations to be received with presence.
Part 3: Sustaining a Meditation Practice
Here are a few helpful hints for sustaining your sitting practice:
• Sit every day, even if it’s for a short period. Intentionally dedicate this time of quieting—it is a gift to the soul!
• A few times during each day, pause. Establish contact with your body and breath, feeling the aliveness that is Here. • Pause more and more—the space of a pause will allow you to come home to your heart and awareness. • Reflect regularly on your aspiration for spiritual awakening and freedom—your own and that of all beings. • Remember that, like yourself, everyone wants to be happy and nobody wants to suffer. • Practice regularly with a group or a friend. • Use inspiring resources such as books, CD’s or web-accessed dharma talks. • Study the Buddhist teachings (e.g., the 4 Noble Truths, the Noble 8-Fold Path). • Sign up for a retreat—one day, a weekend, or longer. The experience will deepen your practice and nourish spiritual awakening. • If you miss practice for a day, a week, or a month, simply begin again. • If you need guidance, ask for help from an experienced meditator or teacher. • Don’t judge your practice — rather, accept what unfolds and trust your capacity to awaken and be free! • Live with a reverence for life—committed to non-harming, to seeing, honoring and serving the sacred in all beings.
You are traveling a path that has led to clarity, peace and deep realization for many people over thousands of years. May their awakening support and inspire you. And may the sincerity of your practice heal and free your spirit. ~ Tara Brach ~
Gratitude Jars are a great way to really look at what is good in your life no matter how small it may seem.
Starting a Gratitude jar in your home is such a great way to notice all the little things that go on during the day that you can be grateful for. The little moments that pass by unchecked can be written down and popped into the gratitude jars and will help to promote the good and make you really appreciate your life.
From that few minutes you got to sit down and read a page out your book whilst tea was cooking, to the hug from your little ones or the one time the dog didn’t bark when the door went. Really noticing all the people, things and situations around you that you have to be thankful for opens up a whole other world. When we appreciate what we already have it makes room in our life for more good things to come our way.
So take a moment now and think about what happened in your life today, no matter how small it is and pop a note in the jar. Get the family involved, its such a great thing to do and see what everyone else has to be grateful for.
Thank you to anyone who reads this, I am truly Grateful.
You can be a child by enjoying small things and being happy with almost anything.Don’t mistake “being a kid at heart” for immaturity. As adults, we learn to become more mature and responsible individuals. Ironically, I believe one of the biggest signs of maturity is choosing to be a kid at heart.Part of me melts every time I encounter children because I observe their carefree, happy, innocent nature, from which adults could stand to learn.
Here are 11 reasons why you are a kid at heart:
1. You always smile.I absolutely adore when a kid smiles at me. It’s highly contagious and impossible for me not to smile back. Children smile because they are truly happy, as their lives are not complicated or filled with much responsibility.They find joy and pure happiness in the simplest things, and they share those giggles with everyone. Charlie Chapman said it best: “A day without laughter is a day wasted.”
2. You forgive freely and know every day is a fresh start.Have you ever noticed that children have the uncanny ability to see every day as a new beginning? They forget about the past easily and don’t hold grudges.When two children fight, they are upset for that time period, but then, the very next day, they are best friends again. As we grow into adults, this becomes tougher and we find it difficult to forgive and let things go.It’s never too late to forgive and start all over.
3. You believe and dream big.In a child’s world, nothing is impossible. The ability of children to believe sparks faith and optimism to never give up. Many adults lose this ability because we tend to see things for how they were or are, rather than how they could be.If we made an effort and believed in pursuing our dreams, we would be more likely to achieve them, even if those dreams seem nearly impossible to accomplish
.4. You are carefree and fearless.Children have the most amazing ability to be carefree and fearless. They are limitless and have no boundaries because they are not yet confined by the fear of shame or failure; they do things because they just don’t know any better.As we grow into adults, we tend to worry or fear the unknown and what others may think of us.Embrace what life has to offer in a carefree and fearless manner so you can be unstoppable
.5. You are active.I remember when I was a little kid, I played hopscotch, jump-roped to “Cinderella, dressed in yellow, went upstairs to kiss her fellow,” ran around the grass with the sprinklers on, had mud fights and did cartwheels for days. I found joy in doing these everyday activities without even thinking of them as forms of exercise.To be honest, I still do some of these things and for the same damn reason — it’s fun.6. You take pleasure in little things.When I was a kid, I would get so excited every Sunday when the ice cream truck made its way around our neighborhood. But, it wasn’t the ice cream I was enthusiastic about; it was more so the song that made me giddytime I heard the truck’s tune, I ran to my dad, asked him to open up the garage, sprinted outside and busted out crazy dance moves to my jam.My dad would then proceed to buy me my favorite rainbow popsicle, which I found fascinating because my tongue turned different colors after licking it.Those simple things made me so happy. As we grow into adults, we take things for granted and stop taking pleasure in the little things. Why do we stop noticing the simple things that have the potential to bring us joy?
7. You love unconditionally.The best thing about children is their love. They could care less about your flaws; they don’t care what you look like, who you are, where you are from or what you do because their love is limitless.It’s true what Mahatma Gandhi stated:The law of love could be best understood and learned through little children.
8. You use your creativity and imagination.I remember losing myself in creative activities as a child. I drew pictures for hours, played with clay, built spaceships and rockets out of LEGOs, pretended I was on the “Lizzie McGuire” show, and then bust out, “Hi, my name is Sheena from ‘Lizzie McGuire’ and you’re watching Disney Channel!”For some reason, as we get older, we get busier. We stop seeing these creative activities as meaningful and worthwhile. The truth is, creativity is the reason our world is so advanced. One should never lose his or her imagination.
9. You have endless curiosity.As a kid, I remember continuously asking my parents questions: Where did we come from? Why do people die? Where is God? What does this mean? I was curious but clueless.Children know they don’t know everything, so they ask a million and one questions to gain knowledge and understanding. Answer this: Isn’t asking questions better than not asking any questions at all?
10. You ask for help.I remember when two boys bullied me in second grade. Call it tattletaling if you must, but for me, it was simply asking for help. Children always ask for help because they don’t know what they are doing or how to handle certain situations.As we grow into adults, we sometimes look at asking for help as weakness. Always feel empowered to ask for help, whether it be on how to do something or how to get through something. We aren’t alone; we all need help every now and then.
11. If you fall, you get back up and run.When a child takes a tumble, he or she might need to be comforted for a bit, but then, the child quickly recovers and runs off to play.As adults, we may be hurt, but as long as we pick ourselves back up and move on, the bruises begin to finally heal.Subscribe to Elite Daily’s official newsletter,
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Quick Coherence® Technique
Steps for Quick Coherence Technique:
Step 1: Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.
Suggestion: Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds (or whatever rhythm is comfortable)
Step 2: Make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care for someone or something in your life.
Suggestion: Try to re-experience the feeling you have for someone you love, a pet, a special place, an accomplishment, etc. or focus on a feeling of calm or ease.
So what is everyones happy place? The memory that first popped into your mind where you were truly happy. No drunken pill popping moments, boo… I have so many of those ones.. They have to be real happy moments from your heart.
So what was mine. – I was in Magaluf, Party Heaven. Yes I know I said no drunken ones and this really isn’t. So picture this.. Its Daytime, its sunny and I am on a Pedalo with my friend and little brother who came to visit me for a holiday. (I was a Pr rep living the dream!) Well, her little brother was desperate for a pee but was scared that sharks would get him..He was 14 and a little drama queen and I loved to wind him up!! So I told him to just pee in the water..so he did..Then we wouldn’t let him back on the pedalo and I nearly wet myself laughing at him splashing around screaming like a little girl…Ok so I sound like a cruel b*tch but honestly he was laughing too…It has always stuck with me as It was true hilarity and a beautiful care free day with only fun and games on my mind.